Monday, April 28, 2014

Not Forgotten

One of the most exciting social findings of the past half century has been the discovery of widespread generational cascades. A generational cascade is a metaphysical process which starts at the top of one age group and tumbles all the way down to the bottom or the latest descendant. It can even mount upward and affect lives of people that precede the phenomenon. And the classic example of what could happen is something that we all fear, which can be summed up in one word: FORGOTTEN. No one wants to be overlooked. Disremembered is a ruthless term. We all know how it feels to be ignored, unnoticed, or disregarded. People employ hope and determination to help them face trials and confront obstacles. Yet we know these challenges can impact their children and even their unborn posterity, but perhaps we are slightly less aware that these anecdotes give life and meaning to many other people, as well, who would otherwise live lonely and pitiful lives. You may know someone who writes in a diary or records a history of sorts. But a simple count shows that those who keep a regular journal for any substantial length of time are few and far between. These connections are valuable and the information is interesting and fun to learn, but it can also be life changing.

For example, the nucleus of the Navajo generation crossed the Bering Strait from the west and gradually moved south and east. Some anthropologists assume that this migration began 3,000 years ago, and it must have taken several hundred years for the people who were to become the Navajos to traverse western Canada from north to south and finally arrive in the southwestern United States. No one knows the detail of this five-century trek, but imagination pictures groups of people, large enough to hold their own against the vicissitudes of an unknown land, following dim trails laid out by other tribes speaking foreign languages who had entered the New World before them. No doubt they have a rich history of their circumstances and culture of their own. Yet the record of that initial journey from the northern ocean to the Southwest is preserved only in Navajo tradition, since they had no written language at the time. Many facts have been captured in writing now to honor and esteem this community of people. But before these connections turned up—they had been absent for more than 2500 years—this tribe was essentially unknown to the rest of the world.

Humanity that does not keep records is destined to become lost. But as soon as the people of the world begin logging histories of some sort, they are remembered for good or ill in perpetuity. Even though these authors may be initially unknown, they start to have the most remarkable effect. First, of course, they influence their immediate families, but that isn't the major thing. Much more significantly, they radically change the behavior of their extended families and communities. Their identities impact certain parts of the world. The places they live improve and flourish most significantly, particularly with their own children and posterity. And immediately those people start to grow and rejuvenate others. In some families the lives of the children improve immediately and courtship and dating in just a few years means new families will start and quickly strengthen parents and children and family relationships. And as soon as that happens, the communities start developing and entire nations progress. The number of happy people and joyful homes increases greatly. The neighborhoods and tribes advance and brotherhood grows, because joy was meant to be shared. And fulfilled people like personal history authors are ecosystem engineers. They create momentum that involves others and builds families and provides habitats of learning for children and kinfolks and tribes and schools and communities and states and nations. The family unit is strengthened, and as a result of that the number of marriage ceremonies and schools begin to rise, which means more homes, more families, more marriages, and more children. Others in the communities and people all across the world come to benefit from the words the authors compose about their triumphs and trials, hardship and hope, suffering, success, and family longevity. The solitary and unmarried benefit, too, because they are part of a bigger family. Welcomed and encouraged to participate and contribute, the single profit as well. And our population begins to rise and thrive, partly also because they are happier and more fulfilled. And the lonely disappear as they are swallowed up in acceptance, unity, and consensus. Their perceived value is reinforced by the impact of those both living and the dead who preceded them, but here’s where it gets really interesting. The histories change the behavior of the generations: adults get help, children are more prepared, we find solutions to problems and answers to our questions and concerns—connected people are better off and happier.

Family members flourish. They have less contention and more understanding and gratitude, less depression and greater appreciation; hardships narrow, friendships form, connections bless lives, all of which is great for family health and community well-being. The lives change in response to the generational cascades. And the reason is that the relationships stabilize the community and families are reinforced, so they endure longer and collapse less, becoming more fixed in their course and committed to one another. Similarly, by capturing stories and sharing their connections, families and communities recover on all familial sides. There are less divisions and more longevity because human connections stabilize that as well. So personal histories, though small in number, transform not just life experiences and lessons learned in this huge population of people, but also its quality of life.    

The wonder of it is that this all starts with the seemingly small act of recording one’s life experiences for the benefit of others, and personal histories turn out blessing everyone.

That's how we change lives in the human family.

Have you captured the fruits of your labors?

Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson






Sunday, April 20, 2014

Palm Sunday

Someday, I want to travel to Jerusalem.

I want to stroll the roads where Jesus walked and feel the wind that cooled the neighborhoods where he taught. I hope to brush my hand on the limestone walls surrounding the city, smell the fragrant olive trees, and visit Galilee where he found fishers of men, calmed the sea, and fed the 5000.

And like the other tourists who have come to see the empty Garden Tomb, I want to witness the stone rolled back and see the vacant place where his body was lain but is no more, because He lives again.

Yes. This is something I have always wanted to do. The implications of his life then become the answers to our challenges now. We see it every day:
Guilt becomes peace
Regret becomes relief
Despair becomes hope
Death has no sting
The grave has no victory
With his stripes, we are healed

This Easter, remember the sacred name, life, and sacrifice of our Savior, Jesus Christ.

Mosiah 16:8



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Saturday, April 19, 2014

Sacrificial Saturday

This week causes us to reflect on the challenges we face. Though they may be small in comparison to others, they are significant to us and therefore important to God.

Can you imagine the feeling the friends of Jesus experienced when they visited the tomb and found that Christ's body was gone? They must have been in despair.

The events of the last few weeks of his life were the highest of highs and now became the lowest of lows. Not only was Jesus mocked, tortured, and killed, but now his body had been taken and desecrated, or so they thought.

But then in a matter of hours, God changed this tragic situation into incomprehensible joy.

That's the same promise we have despite our present circumstances.



More reading:
Jesus is Resurrected / My Joy is Full The Meaning of Easter

Friday, April 18, 2014

A lifetime of blessings

Do you want to feel valued, fulfilled, and important? Sure you do.

We all want these secure and welcomed emotions. Yet how is this sentiment realized? Interestingly, it's not achieved by focusing on oneself.

Realizing our hopes and dreams and happiness are found in serving others, lifting them, and expressing gratitude for our blessings. So today, put this claim to the test. You can know for yourself that this is true by following the simple steps below:
1. Become genuinely interested in other people
2. Smile
3. Remember people's names
4. Be a good listener
5. Talk in terms of other people's interests
6. Sincerely make other people feel important
7. Be grateful and express appreciation 
The answers to our prayers may come long after the plea is made.
Benefits of studying scriptures daily are realized long after the passages are read.

Perhaps the greatest lessons are learned while reflecting over life's experiences. We are all familiar with President Henry B. Eyring's comments regarding capturing these experiences. He said the following:

I wrote down a few lines every day for years. I never missed a day no matter how tired I was or how early I would have to start the next day. Before I would write, I would ponder this question: “Have I seen the hand of God reaching out to touch us or our children or our family today?” As I kept at it, something began to happen. As I would cast my mind over the day, I would see evidence of what God had done for one of us that I had not recognized in the busy moments of the day. As that happened, and it happened often, I realized that trying to remember had allowed God to show me what He had done.



Elder Bednar expands on this principle by stressing the principle of tender mercies:

But behold, I, Nephi, will show unto you that the tender mercies of the Lord are over all those whom he hath chosen, because of their faith, to make them mighty even unto the power of deliverance
1 Ne 1:20

Recognition and gratitude are the essential elements in experiencing joy. That is the secret to true happiness.

This Easter...and always.

More reading:
O Remember, Remember / The Tender Mercies of God / Easter Videos

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Because of Him

Watching conference is a longtime tradition in our family.

Most of my children have moved away from home, but on that weekend, we often reconvene to watch the conference sessions together. This year was no exception.

Family members gathered together in our living room to hear the word of God. It reminded me of the Book of Mormon where King Benjamin gathered his people around the temple to hear from him. The multitude was so great that they erected towers and caused the words to be written.

So we, too, gathered together from all around the land to hear the words our prophets had prepared for us and caused to be written. And now we can enjoy these messages on the Web and soon in the Ensign that we, too, might receive the word of God from his emissaries.

6 And they pitched their tents round about the temple, every man having his tent with the door thereof towards the temple, that thereby they might remain in their tents and hear the words which king Benjamin should speak unto them...          Mosiah 2:5-8

And what were the words we received from them? There were many, but none more significant than because Jesus Christ is the Savior of all mankind, it is possible for each of us to live again with God and our loved ones.

Because of Him, we have hope.

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Keep it in the ring

We just returned from a weekend in St George. We had a great time hiking, four-wheel driving, and visiting family. We found the cemetery in Santa Clara and dozens of our ancestors grave sites, including Great-Grandpa John's and many others. Randy and Penny hosted us with open arms and warm hearts. I am so grateful for family who despite hardships of every kind are there to support and love and accept us with all our shortcomings.

Faults, mistakes, and challenges are a normal part of life. We all have them, but families look beyond the obvious to make life better.

We will all face hardship. We will stumble and fall repeatedly. We may not achieve our worldly goals. But first and foremost, we are family, and together we can and will overcome anything.

Just like our ancestors and Grandpa John have shown us, we are in this together and will emerge victorious.

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Prosperity

One of my all time favorite parables is that of the prodigal son. You remember the story of the wealthy man whose son asked for his inheritance from his father, and then the young man took this money and spent it all on riotous living and returned broken, forlorn, and penniless to his father’s home. You can read about this in Luke.

There are many reasons why this is a favorite of mine, but just a couple I want to mention follow:
  • At the beginning of the chapter the Pharisees and scribes ridicule the Savior because He was receiving sinners unto Himself and eating with them. So the Lord spake a parable to them about the lost sheep (Luke 15:4-6) Then He explained to them the real meaning “I say unto you, that likewise joy shall be in heaven over one sinner that repenteth, more than over ninety and nine just persons, which need no repentance.”
  • But not wanting them to misunderstand, He shared the parable of the lost coin to make His point. (Luke 15:8-9) Again He emphasized “Likewise, I say unto you, there is joy in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner that repenteth.”
  • Alas, to reiterate His point, He then finished with the parable of the prodigal son. This boy willfully rebelled. He was forewarned but did not heed the cautions and everything happened just as he was warned—but he was still forgiven and though he felt unworthy to return to his home, the father received him in joy and placed his finest robe on his son and killed the fatted calf to celebrate his return. “For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found.”
Perhaps, that’s my favorite part because each one of us is that misguided boy. We have all made mistakes and are unworthy of the blessings in store for us, but we don’t receive these blessings because we deserve them. We receive them because our Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ love us despite our shortcomings. That’s what it means to be saved by grace.

The Lord suffered for our infirmities that we might be healed and reunited as families with Him. That's the really good news we have as we face obstacles in our day. He understands us and has compassion for us.

And we will be rewarded, too, because He loves and supports us amid our challenges and has overcome every barrier to our return through the good news of Jesus Christ.

That is really good news.


Sunday, April 6, 2014

Stick with it

I have been so excited to hear the speakers in conference this week. I know a personal message is in store for each one of us. You may have been able to watch the assembly. I hope that you have. If not, it has been posted on the Internet and made available for your use time and again.

Some special messages I have gleaned from this conference:
  • Daily scripture study and prayer are the very activities that lift and empower us, removing stress and strengthening our resolve.
  • Get on your knees in recognition of the fact that we do not have all the answers. Thank God for the people who have blessed your life and seek to do the same for others.
  • The benefits of planting a garden don't necessarily come while sowing the seeds. Trials are blessings, which are often made manifest long after the hardship is overcome. The trick is to endure to the end.
This week's message was taken from an April conference of five years ago. Remember, the benefits of the lessons we hear today often sustain and lift us tomorrow. The trick is to listen and apply the wisdom, so it can change your life.

The following excerpt expresses my sentiments. Below is a link to a video including the whole message. It is pertinent to us today. Listen to and enjoy it at your leisure.

The gospel is the way of discipleship. As we walk in that way, we can experience confidence and joy—even during times of peril, sorrow, and uncertainty.

Let us remember on this Palm Sunday, during this Easter season, and always that the restored gospel of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ has the power to fill any emptiness, heal any wound, and bridge any vale of sorrow. It is the way of hope, faith, and trust in the Lord. The gospel of Jesus Christ is taught in its fullness in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. This Church is led by a living prophet, authorized by the Lord Jesus Christ to provide direction and guidance to help us face the challenges of our day, as serious as they may be.
I bear my solemn witness that Jesus the Christ lives. He is the Savior and Redeemer of the world. He is the promised Messiah. He lived a perfect life and atoned for our sins. He will ever be at our side. He will fight our battles. He is our hope; He is our salvation; He is the way. Of this I testify in the sacred name of Jesus Christ, amen.
Discipleship is not a spectator sport. We cannot expect to experience the blessings of faith by standing inactive on the sidelines. You can know by putting his words to the test. I have done that, and I know it for myself.

So, enjoy conference today. See it now; read and listen to it time and again. Whomever you are reading this message, your personal Heavenly Father has made these things available because he loves you.

Let it change your life.