Christmas Oranges

There are many renditions of this story. I have chosen one submitted by Kelly Smith of California. She writes the following:

I'd like to tell you a story my grandmother told me when I was six or seven years old. We had gone to her home for Thanksgiving dinner and the drive was rather a long one. I had filled the time with making a list of all the things that I wanted for Christmas that year.


Later that evening after I was ready for bed, I showed the list to my grandmother. After she read it, she said, "My goodness, that really is a long list!" Then she picked me up and set me on her lap in the big rocking chair and told me this story:

"Once there was a little girl who came to live in an orphanage in Denmark" (Now my grandmother was from Denmark, so this story might even be true.) "As Christmas time grew near, all of the other children began telling the little girl about the beautiful Christmas tree that would appear in the huge downstairs hall on Christmas morning. After their usual, very plain breakfast, each child would be given their one and only Christmas gift; small, single orange."

At this point I looked up at my grandmother in disbelief, but she assured me that was all each child would receive for Christmas.

"Now the headmaster of the orphanage was very stern and he thought Christmas to be a bother. So on Christmas Eve, when he caught the little girl creeping down the stairs to catch a peek at the much-heard-of Christmas tree, he sharply declared that the little girl would not receive her Christmas orange because she had been so curious as to disobey the rules. The little girl ran back to her room broken-hearted and crying at her terrible fate."

"The next morning as the other children were going down to breakfast, the little girl stayed in her bed. She couldn't stand the thought of seeing the others receive their gift when there would be none for her."

"Later, as the children came back upstairs, the little girl was surprised to be handed a napkin. As she carefully opened it, there to her disbelief was an orange all peeled and sectioned."

"How could this be?" she asked.

"It was then that she found how each child had taken one section from their orange and given it to her so that she, too, would have a Christmas orange."

How I loved this story! I would ask my grandmother to tell it to me over and over as I grew up. Every Christmas, as I pull a big, juicy orange from my stocking, I think of this story. What an example of the true meaning of Christmas those orphan children displayed that Christmas morning. How I wish the world, as a whole would display that same kind of Christ-like concern for others, not just at Christmas, but throughout the year.


Author Unknown

Ears to hear

Why is it that we love the Christmas season so much?

Admittedly, toward the end of the day yesterday, some voiced their sorrow to have seen Christmas come and go so quickly.

"The Spirit of Christmas illuminates the picture window of the soul." So states the message from President Monson.

Perhaps, during this time of year, we offer a little more patience, exhibit a little more obedience, extend the hand of friendship a little more often, and bask in the warmth that comes from following the commandments and extending good will to all men and our friends and family in particular. 

President Monson continues by saying that "Giving not getting brings to full bloom the Christmas Spirit. If we are to have the very best Christmas ever, we must reach out for the Carpenter's hand, for every step we take in his footsteps, we abandon a doubt and gain a truth."

Giving not getting brings to full bloom the Christmas spirit; friends are remembered and God obeyed.

Do you have the determination to make this the very best year ever?

The formula is the same.

Hear the Voice of God

http://www.lds.org/new-era/2013/01/hear-the-voice-of-god?lang=eng

Good Tidings

Christmas 2012 - What a day! Christmas is one of my favorite seasons, though the celebration is different every year. This year was no exception. As the children have grown, we have modified our traditions some. I have to chuckle when I think about the changes:

• We had our Nazarene dinner like usual and Mom (Mary) & dad (Joseph) actually participated in the nativity this year.
• The evening last night was spent playing games and flying helicopters (Steven's idea and contribution)
• We stayed up late laughing and enjoying one another's company
• At the bidding of the children, Mom and dad joined in the tradition of lining up in the basement before entering the family room this morning to see the gifts--whole new perspective for me
• We were happy to have Grandma stay with us last night and be with us today; especially grateful for her vitality and longevity

Did everything proceed flawlessly? No, all wasn't perfect, but that didn't change things. There were hiccups, just like always, but the great thing is that the children handled it all well, and we overcame hardship. Bumpy as the morning was, the entire day proceeded as we had hoped.

Grandma's health continues; gift exchange was awesome; peace, hope, and joy have been abundant.

Carly and Steven joined us for dinner. Camilla has been communicating with us all morning though Nick and Camilla are in Logan this year...

Let this be a time of remembrance, of gratitude, and a time of forgiveness. Let it be a time to ponder the Atonement of Jesus Christ for each of us personally. We, like the wisemen of old, should seek the Christ and lay before him the most precious of gifts--a broken heart and a contrite spirit.

"Unto us a Child is born, unto us a Son is given;  for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people."



Merry Christmas, every one.

Gilead's balm

What do you know about the balm of Gilead?

I went to the scriptures today to learn more. The balm of Gilead was “an aromatic gum or spice used for healing wounds.” (Gen. 43:11, Jer. 8:22, 46:11, 51:8) A bush produced resin from which the balm was made. These grew so plentifully in Gilead during Old Testament times that the balm came to be known as the “balm of Gilead.” (Gen. 37:25, Ezek. 27:17)

Today, the Balm of Gilead refers to many different blessings that bring healing, reconciliation, peace, and comfort in the midst of injury, conflict, and discord.

 27 Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. John 14:27

Apology is the ointment that ignites the healing power of forgiveness.

Balm of Gilead, a talk by Boyd K. Packer in the October 1987 General Conference

The Healing Power of Forgiveness, a talk by James E. Faust in the April 2007 General Conference (one of my favorite talks of all time. The emotion and words of President Faust are moving.)

This week, listen to the talks above and watch the following video. You'll be glad you did.

Let the healing begin.



I am grateful that God allows tragedies and trials to occur in our lives, not because they are easy or because they are desired, but because they help us love, and that too was a wonderful blessing because I saw my brother. Coming to know a Man of Sorrow and One who is acquainted with grief as I have come to understand is really why I was sent here. And it has been incredibly difficult to have to learn those lessons in the way that I have learned them, but I have always ended those episodes of grief with an assurance and a hope that one day perhaps I will see him as he is and one day hopefully I will be like him, and one day I will be with my wife again as well as the rest of my family...and that's what keeps me moving forward...

Still

When we pray so hard for something, why don't we receive it? We have good intentions. We are faithfully serving the Lord in whatever capacity we are called. Others all about us seem to get the things they want.

What more could we do? Why are we not given the desires of our hearts?

I am reminded of a statement by Sherry Dew, who as you know, never had the opportunity to get married. She said  something like "Believe me, if fasting and prayer and temple attendance automatically resulted in a husband, I'd have Nephis lining up to wed me."

But on a more serious note, we ask for guidance, for direction, and for help and protection, yet in the midst of our pleas in seeking the Lord's direction, things go differently than we hoped and planned. How do we explain it?

I love the use of the word "still" in reference to the Still Small Voice. You could perceive from that word the idea of quiet, reverent, or tranquil. Certainly these are good and appropriate terms. But another way of interpreting the word could be persistence, endurance, or continuity—especially amid hardship or difficulty.

For example, I wonder how often we must rely on this power to get us through terrible hardships. I could mention any number of you. We all have obstacles we must overcome, and I expect you too rely on this resource often because I see you face your challenges with optimism, courage, strength, and confidence... still.

When the tempest raged around the twelve apostles on the Sea of Galilee, the Savior uttered the words "Be still" to calm the storm. I testify we can use the words of the Lord and his promises to still the storms in our hearts, the troubles in our souls, and the challenges in our lives today. And when the Lord's will is different than what we initially expected, we can still find solace in our faith in him and his will.

I do and hope you will, too.

Psalms 46:10 Be still and know that I am God
Mark 4:39 Peace, be still. And the wind ceased
Doctrine and Covenants 101:16  All flesh is in mine hands; be still

Broken hearts

This has become a memorable week for all the wrong reasons. Peoples lives will forever change because of the ruthless actions of others. Our thoughts and prayers go out to those in the community of Newtown Connecticut, especially the families of those that lost so much, whose hearts are broken today. These grief stricken people shoulder a terrible burden and need relief from their suffering.

Their loss has been overwhelming. Their pain, immense. How can we help? Lift a brother. Lighten another's load. Share a complement with the forgotten. Save someone's pain by being a friend when there is none. Visit the lonely. Or speak a kind word in the midst of anger and rebuke.

Only One can heal these wounds. We must show humility and rely on him alone. This is our privilege.

Trust in the Savior. Listen to his words. Follow his example.

And you will find an unexpected gift amid challenges.

Counsel with him

I am grateful for the guidance and direction we receive from Heavenly Father, especially in the midst of challenges.

Do you remember the experience when Grandpa decided to approach the Lord regarding our decision to move from Salt Lake City to Castle Valley? It's one of my favorites:

Well, Grandpa had been selling ladies' clothing successfully for years. So when the company began to falter, he naturally thought he would continue doing that but under a different name for a different market. Granny and Grandpa started Group Apparel Specialists and sold uniforms to high schools and colleges. They also started an antique store. That's where the name Sunflowerhill came from. And he had other ideas. But when he retired to the basement and presented this option to the Lord, he couldn't even articulate his plan. He had been working on it for weeks and prepared for every possible eventuality. But when he tried to explain it in prayer, it was jumbled and incoherent. So he went and rested a bit, thinking he had been working too hard and was unable to think straight. Afterward, he returned to the basement closet and approached Heavenly Father in prayer once more. But he was again unable to articulate the plan. So he thought that perhaps that was his answer. Just like the Doctrine and Covenants states in section 9, verses 7-9:

 7 Behold, you have not understood; you have supposed that I would give it unto you, when you took no thought save it was to ask me.

 8 But, behold, I say unto you, that you must study it out in your mind; then you must ask me if it be right, and if it is right I will cause that your bosom shall burn within you; therefore, you shall feel that it is right.

 9 But if it be not right you shall have no such feelings, but you shall have a stupor of thought that shall cause you to forget the thing which is wrong; therefore, you cannot write that which is sacred save it be given you from me.

After this experience, he returned to the basement closet and in prayer told Heavenly Father that he recognized that he had received an answer and had therefore decided to pursue other options. Instantly, his heart burned within him until his whole bosom was on fire. He knew that his choice was right.

It was shortly after that when Granny found a newspaper ad about Castle Valley, and as they say, the rest is history. The Gift of the Holy Ghost is a most treasured gift. If we will but seek and follow the promptings, it is our guide through life.

I love that story about Grandpa. He would tell it with humility and emotion. But it should be noted that though he received a witness to do something different and relocate the family to a new life in southern Utah, he did not have all the answers and still moved forward in faith. And so it is with us. We will receive direction but must continue with faith.

One of my favorite quotes follows (a link to the whole talk). Know that you can make all your concerns a matter of prayer. That means you aren't alone in making decisions. And because you listen and have the courage to follow the promptings from the Lord--He will guide you in your activities.

Nephi was successful. He sought the Lord's guidance in prayer, and did his very best--even when at first, the lot of them repeatedly failed to obtain the plates.

President Kimball captured this concept beautifully in the words below:

It is easy to get discouraged. It is easy to quit, but you mustn't fail. You remember how Nephi went into an impossible situation and couldn't get the plates. His brothers couldn't. They couldn’t buy them. They couldn’t bribe them out of the hands of Laban. They couldn't force their way in, and their lives were hanging on a thread. Inspite of all that, here comes one boy, unarmed, who walks into a city through a wall that was closed to him, through gates that couldn't be opened, into a garden that was impenetrable, into a vault that was locked, among soldiers that couldn't be bypassed, and comes out with his arms full of records to keep his posterity and others from perishing in unbelief. (See 1 Ne. 3–4.)

That's your promise, too. The Lord will guide you. Counsel with Him and recognize his hand in your life. Alma 37:37

That way you can't fail.

Gratitude

Gratitude fosters happiness, which is why I have heard of people keeping a gratitude journal. To do this, every morning write out at least five things you're thankful for. In times of stress, pause and reflect on 10 things you're grateful for.  

What are you grateful for today?

When we were missionaries, we taught investigators about prayer. As parents, we teach our children to pray. We encourage them to first thank Heavenly Father for his blessings. Why?

Insert your answers to this question with a comment below, so we can all benefit from your observations. I am looking forward to your insights.

Let us not forget to thank Heavenly Father for our greatest blessing.

Take ten minutes and watch the video below.

Change the world

Perhaps the title of this post is not what you would expect during the holidays. Nonetheless, that is our commission.

Changing the world begins with changing your world. Perhaps start with the following:

• get up 10 minutes earlier to do something extra (read scriptures, play the piano, or develop another talent)
• recognize and show appreciation for people in your life
• improve yourself
• mend a relationship
• leave things better than you find them

Give thanks for your blessings. Make the world a better place...and then enjoy it.

My sincere appreciation to all of you who bring so much joy into my life. I can't help but think of my dad when I hear the Halleluja Chorus. He appreciated good music so and loved the message it portrays. When this song was performed, it was not uncommon to look over and see tears streaming down his cheeks. I love that about him.

The Gift of the Messiah (This article is great. It contains a video I just love.)

You will notice that when the choir begins singing in the link above, the audience stands up. This has been a tradition long before my time, yet it continues to flood my emotions each time I see it. Upon hearing the "Halleluja Chorus" movement of the Messiah, King George II of England was reputedly so overcome with emotion that he spontaneously rose to his feet. When the king stands, everyone stands, so the audience immediately rose also. The tradition of standing for the chorus is still observed today in most live performances of "Messiah". I like to think, however, that we stand out of respect and adoration for the Savior. That seems more agreeable to me.

Whence come thou again

Did I ever share with you the story of when I got lost at Knott's Berry Farm? My family was there on vacation, and we were watching a fantastic dance right in the middle of the walkway. When I looked up, the family was gone. That was disconcerting to say the least. It must have shown on my face, because a kind woman asked me if I was lost, and at that question, I think I probably burst into tears.

She assured me I would be fine, and she told me that she would take me to the office so they could make an announcement and get me back with my family. Those were sweet words, and she did exactly as promised. Someday, I hope to have an opportunity to thank her for coming to my aid.

Well, at the Knott's Berry Farm office, I was greeted by the nicest, sweetest young ladies you can imagine--Snow White herself couldn't have been any more giggly, kind, or beautiful--remember, I was a 5-year-old boy. While I was waiting, they consoled and entertained me with stories, treats, and attention like any young boy loves. Nevertheless, when my parents walked through the door to recover me, I was delighted.

It was relatively harmless back in those days, and I actually remember it with a sort of fondness and nostalgia. But I imagine it was anything but nostalgic and pleasant for the apostles when they learned about the events leading to the end of the world and Christ's imminent departure. I have said before that I imagine the apostles were pleading when they asked "Tell us, when shall these things be? and what shall be the sign of thy coming?" 

The whole chapter Matt 24 is great and very informative. Read it. Many of the prophecies contained therein have been fulfilled.

And though we are told "Of that day and hour knoweth no man," (Matt 24:36) we are also told that we can know when it is near by watching for the fulfillment of events foretold. (Mark 13:28)

So what does all this have to do with getting separated from my parents as a boy while on vacation? Actually, it is remarkably similar. 

• The separation was brief 
• Was it scary? Yes, but it was kind of fun too 
• It turned out fine, even though parts were worrisome at the time
• As I look back now, the outcome was sure
• The joy of being reunited was great 

These same characteristics are true in life with the freedoms we enjoy as we prepare for the Second Coming of Jesus Christ. 

• Our separation from Heavenly Father is relative short compared to eternity
• Even amid hardship, life is scattered with joyous occasions
  Men are, that they might have joy (2 Nephi 2:25) and all of our afflictions are swallowed up in the joy of Christ (Alma 31:38)
• Everything will turn out ok in the end; if it's not ok, it's not the end
• The following statement of Elder Cook emphasizes our perspective:
  ...it’s a wonderful time to be a member of the Church ... We know what the ultimate outcome is, we know who Jesus Christ is, and we have the opportunity of having a loving Father in Heaven bless us.
• The righteous eagerly await the return of the Savior Jesus Christ

The question really is will we be ready when He comes again.

Will YOU be ready?

Home is where the heart is

There are so many different perspectives and varying opinions on the real definition of what it means to be successful.

Sometimes the world evaluates success by the number of dollars made or the impact on society or the great discoveries realized or perhaps the titles or educational rank achieved.

I'm not saying those things aren't important or good, but it can be discouraging if you base your success and value on those accomplishments alone, especially when outside factors limit your ability to achieve them.

Getting little notes from my children, who are upright, generous, and kind. Going out to lunch with family or having a confidential, trusted talk when needed. Or perhaps, a compassionate, faithful, loving wife. To me...successful or not...that's real wealth.

 19 Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal:
 20 But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal:
 21 For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

  Matt 6:19, 20. 21

How do you measure success?

Pray Always

When I was a boy, I used to mimic a Dial soap commercial. It went something like "Aren't you glad you use Dial? Don’t you wish everybody did?" I thought I was so funny. I was just a little kid. But there are many, many more ad slogans and some really memorable ones like Please don’t squeeze the Charmin, Got Milk? or the American Express classic "Don’t leave home without it."

I imagine that many of you don't know what an idiom is without looking up the definition, but unaware you use them all of the time. So sometimes without even realizing it, we try something without really knowing why. Regardless of whether you are aware of idioms or not at all, they are available for your use and benefit. That makes me wonder how many other things are ready to assist us, which we may not be utilizing to their fullest capacity.

The cool thing about this post is that we are going to talk about perhaps the most important idiom of all. But don't be surprised if you have never recognized it as such. That's why we are going to discuss it now. You have all heard the best defense is a good offense...and yes that is an idiom, but not the foremost expression I am talking about, but an idiom nonetheless.

Maybe it's because I'm a guy, but I have always loved the analogy of the Armor of God found in Ephesians 6. The weapons and protection described there are inspiring and comforting, but more than that, they are an asset for us to overcome the battles that we face in our lives. The whole chapter is great, but I want to focus on verses 11-18. Read them in the link above.

So we have a number of defensive measures available to us. These verses talk about a helmet, breastplate, shield, and other armor and relate these to truth, righteousness, preparation, and peace. Paul continues with increased emphasis to utilize faith, salvation, and perseverance. And in the midst of these verses, an offensive weapon is revealed--the Sword of the Spirit. Then we receive the exhortation "Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit."

Actually, if I am honest about it, this concept used to trouble me, "How can one really pray always?" Well, I thought about the times when I was raising my voice to heaven and even as I was closing my prayer, I realized I failed to thank Him for something in particular or forgot to ask His help regarding this matter or that. Funny thing is that it seems to happen more the older I get. Then, I remembered how I handled the matter in college when I was taking a big test or making a life-changing decision like choosing or changing my major. When I faced a challenge that was beyond my ability alone to manage, I found myself constantly thinking and seeking and listening for guidance. I would frequently call Grandpa to run my thoughts by him and hope his direction would lead me in the way I should go. And as I pondered his counsel and considered the advice, it helped light the path before me. Then very clearly it came to me. If I did this very thing with my earthly father, then why not with my Heavenly Father through prayer and the manifestation and direction of the Spirit. We can always be seeking His guidance and thanking him for direction.

Our most valuable defense against the adversary, confusion, doubt, and fear is the whole armor of God. And with it you will have the protection you want and the answers that you seek, the faith that you need, and the courage required to tackle the obstacles of our day–armed with the Sword of the Spirit. If I could provide any tool to help you through life, this is the one I would give you...and He did. John 14:27

I know that one day we will live in His presence and feel always of the Lord's Spirit, and I look forward to that day with anticipation. 

Until then, don't leave home without it.

I Love

There are so many things I love about our family. Now I'm not talking about the way that we show affection with hugs and kisses or the way we tell one another frequently that we love each other. No. I'm not talking about the family traditions that we have like lining up by age in ascending order to go into the living room on Christmas morning or celebrating early morning birthdays with a happy birthday to you song at the bedside. Those traditions are great, too, but today what I really love is the little things about each one of you that make our family what it is. Like a beautiful stained glass window is made up of many small, significant colors and shapes, our family is composed of the total of all your individual characteristics.

• Nick - I have always loved Nick. He adds so much to our family. One of the most poignant moments I remember about Nick was when he called me to ask for my permission and blessing to marry Camilla. Sounds like a small thing, perhaps, but my admiration and appreciation for Nick grew enormously that day. And ever since, we have had many occasions to develop bonds. Always, my fly-fishing mentor.
• Camilla tries new things and leads the way--working hard to achieve her goals--one summer in Alaska and another at Lake Powell; teaching English in Korea and travelling the orient, things I have never done. She is perfect for Nick and Tosh. I think Camilla's namesake is one of the finest people that I have ever met. But considering Camilla's qualities, it's no wonder she shares that forename.
• Steven's calling card is that he includes everyone, is fun to be with, and understanding of others. It's tough going to school--college is hard work--you all know that, but I love remembering the frequent times that I would call Steven, and he would be coming from or going to the temple. I would think "I want to be more like that." And his music...wow...Steven is easy to love.
• Amy - her little laugh, dedication to a cause, and determination are characteristics that I admire about Amy. No one really understands how hard she had to work when she was employed by Jeff and Tanya. Often she changed her plans because she was called into work last moment or asked to stay longer than scheduled. But day-in-and-day-out she willingly surrendered her own plans for the greater good. And as far as Tripp and Liv--Amy will always be a favorite. For me, Amy epitomizes integrity.
• Alyssa - everybody loves Alyssa. Her style, her smile, her loyalty to family and friends. I love that she is honest with me and shares the desires of her heart, even when she is afraid or unsure. It takes a lot of courage to bear your soul when you risk rejection, humiliation, or indifference. But that won't stop Alyssa. She does what is dead-on because it is right.
• Melanie - beauty and affability are qualities often not found together, but it just so happens that in Melanie's case, they exist in spades. People say that beauty is more than skin deep. Melanie is kind to others and glows inside and out, and that's what makes her so attractive because she is simply charming.
• Emily is friendly, obedient, loving, and kind. Those words describe her well. I love that Emily is a companion to all and scatters sunshine everywhere she goes. She has so many friends from all parts of the ward and neighborhood and is a favorite both in and out of the family. Everybody loves Emily.

And Linda, she is the girl of my dreams. I would be so much less without her. There are so many things I love about your mother: appreciation for BYU football, the challenges during her youth from which she ascended so beautifully, and her dedication to home and family. You know, your mother is your greatest advocate-- I love that about her.

Though there is much more to say, I can only mention the briefest summation of your qualities. 

Of course I love all of you. How could I not?

And the best is yet to come.

That Day

Man I have a beautiful family! This year we spent Thanksgiving with Gregg, Terri, and their children; privileged to have Elaine come along with us. Steven, Race, Amy and Kari joined in on Thanksgiving day. Delicious food. Incredible pies. Fun and games. Tradition of amusing, family-friendly YouTube videos and games around the table...a moment to capture our thoughts of gratitude together; a life time to demonstrate our appreciation for the bounty we all enjoy.

Black Friday...whether you like the tradition or not...manifests the abundance available to us in this era and particularly in our country even in the midst of the nation's challenges.

During the holiday, Saren shared with all of us something that really touched me. And now I want to share it with you.  (check out the script below; you can reference the quotes from the video)

Enjoy! 

UNLEASHING THE DORMANT SPIRIT

F. Enzio Busche

I want to share with you a vehicle, an instrument, which I have developed some time ago for myself and for my family. It can assist us to reach our focus as we read the suggested vision of true discipleship as a Latter-day Saint.

It helps when we from time-to-time ponder and seek identification with the following thoughts:

* Embrace this day with an enthusiastic welcome, no matter how it looks. The covenant with God to which you are true enables you to become enlightened by him, and nothing is impossible for you.

* When you are physically sick, tired, or in despair, steer your thoughts away from yourself and direct them in gratitude and love toward God.

* In your life there have to be challenges. They will either bring you closer to God and therefore make you stronger or they can destroy you. But you make the decision of which road you take.

* First and foremost, you are a spirit child of God. If you neglect to feed your spirit, you will reap unhappiness. Don’t permit anything to detract you from this awareness.

* You cannot communicate with God unless you have first sacrificed your self-oriented natural man and have brought yourself into the lower levels of meekness, to become acceptable for the Light of Christ.

* Put all frustrations, hurt feelings, and grumblings into the perspective of your eternal hope. Light will flow into your soul.

* Pause to ponder the suffering Christ felt in the Garden of Gethsemane. In the awareness of the depth of gratitude for him, you appreciate every opportunity to show your love for him by diligently serving in his Church.

* God knows that you are not perfect. As you suffer about your imperfections, he will give you comfort and suggestions where to improve.

* God knows better than you what you need. He always attempts to speak to you. Listen, and follow the uncomfortable suggestions that he makes to us–-and everything will fall into its place.

* Avoid any fear like your worst enemy, but magnify your fear about the consequences of sin.

* When you cannot love someone, look into that person’s eyes long enough to find the hidden rudiments of the child of God in him.

* Never judge anyone. When you accept this, you will be freed. In the case of your own children or subordinates, where you have the responsibility to judge, help them to become their own judges.

* If someone hurts you so much that your feelings seem to choke you, forgive and you will be free again.

* Avoid at all cost any pessimistic, negative, or criticizing thoughts. If you cannot cut them out, they will do you harm. On the road toward salvation, let questions arise but never doubts. If something is wrong, God will give you clarity but never doubts.

* Avoid rush and haste and uncontrolled words. Divine light develops in places of peace and quiet. Be aware of that as you enter places of worship.

* Be not so much concerned about what you do, but do what you do with all your heart, might, and strength. In thoroughness is satisfaction.

* You want to be good and to do good. That is commendable. But the greatest achievement that can be reached in our lives is to be under the complete influence of the Holy Ghost. Then he will teach us what is really good and necessary to do.

* The pain of sacrifice lasts only one moment. It is the fear of the pain of sacrifice that makes you hesitate to do it.

* Be grateful for every opportunity to serve. It helps you more than those you serve.

* And finally, when you are compelled to give up something or when things that are dear to you are withdrawn from you, know that this is your lesson to be learned right now. But know also that, as you are learning this lesson, God wants to give you something better.

Thus, we prepare all the days of our lives, and as we grow, death loses its sting, hell loses its power, and we look forward to that day with anticipation and joy when he will come in his glory.

Christmas Joy

Carols are ringing through the house. Holiday lights have been lit. The Christmas tree is decorated. Holly adorns our stairway. Goodies spill out of the kitchen. Nativity reminds us of our joy. And a wreath hangs at the door.

So what is different about Christmas this year? My daughters instigated all the decorating this time around. I helped, at least I think I did.
First, we put the lights up. Emily did the ones I couldn't reach.
Rearranging the room to accommodate the tree seemed like too much work - they did.
The tree boxes are way too big without getting some help; we can't move them - they did.
I said that we would never be able to raise the tree by ourselves - they did.
Try as I might, I couldn't get the tree lights connected properly - they did.
But we will never get the top on the tree "There is no way you can do that" - they did.

You are probably beginning to see a pattern here...

Below is a beautiful 4-minute Christmas music video from the College of Fine Arts and Communications at BYU.  My good friend wrote the music and alumni, students and staff designed and produced the music and accompanying video.



We benefit in so many ways from others who can help and bless and lift us by contributing in some how to our lives. For me, that helps remind me that we cannot emerge from this life without the assistance of others, particularly the Savior Jesus Christ:

And now, behold, my beloved brethren, this is the way; and there is none other way nor name given under heaven whereby man can be saved in the kingdom of God. 2 Nephi 31:21

And behold, I am the light and the life of the world; and I have drunk out of that bitter cup which the Father hath given me, and have glorified the Father in taking upon me the sins of the world. 3 Nephi 11:11

Try as we might, we cannot make it through life alone, and gratefully we don't have to. Though our efforts are well meaning, they are futile except for the grace of the Savior Jesus Christ. Even after all we can do, it's not enough without him. 2 Nephi 25:23

At Christmastime and always, Jesus Christ is the Light of the World for all who seek him. For more Christmas videos, visit http://christmas.lds.org.

Favorites

We all have different motivations and things that inspire us. I have many, just like you--great literature, a piece of beautiful music, delicious food... Funny as it may seem, I include great ad campaigns among these treasures (link to some of the best). Here are a few of my favorites:

• Got Milk?—you have all heard of this one. Check this out.
• I'm a Mormon by the Church—go to Youtube and search for "I'm a Mormon" or http://imamormon.org
• BYU student's Adlab campaign Scan Me—this one beat out their NYC- and LA-based agency competitors

Anyway, sorry. I got side tracked. These are really good and often funny. But when it comes to great slogans, Zions Bank's "We haven't forgotten who keeps us in business" is right up there with the best. When it first came out, Jeff and I were doing some marketing at the time. And I had one of those moments "Why didn't I think of that!?" It seemed to capture in a brief expression all the reasons why choosing the people at Zions Bank made sense, because they were really going to take care of you. 

You may remember it, but if you don't I'm not surprised. Because when they rolled out the campaign, the spokesperson stressed the wrong thing. They would say "we haven't FORGOTTEN who keeps us in business" or "we haven't forgotten who keeps US in business" or some other version, failing to stress the right thing..."WE haven't forgotten who keeps us in business." 

Instead of becoming one of the great advertising campaigns of recent memory, it fell flat and was at best forgettable.

What I learned from this experience is that it is important where you place your emphasis. Great things can be lost and forgotten when we misplace our focus. Mediocre and seemingly simple things become great when you emphasize what made them valuable in the first place. Ask every mother who has kept for years Mother's Day, birthday, and other cards and drawings given as gifts from their children. Great things are even better when you emphasize the right things.

And so it is with the gospel of Jesus Christ. There is so much good, so much hope, so many opportunities to bless the lives of others if we will stress the right things. Maybe this was why the Epistle of James was Grandpa's favorite book among all of scripture.

"Pure religion and undefiled before the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world."

James 1:27

Service is the very definition of pure religion.

Stress the right things.

Eye on the prize

I raked leaves today. Fortunately, I had some help. Melanie and Emily had scraped the leaves into massive piles in the back yard. So my lot was to dispose of those piles.

My thinking was that we need the mulch, and leaves will make the perfect humus, so I began combining the mounds and raking them toward the compost pile. Now, you're probably asking yourself "Why in the world is dad talking about raking leaves? Isn't there anything more interesting than that to write about?" And you would be right. It seems, at first, like a mundane subject, but read on. I began to realize that I could not move the massive pile in one group. Instead I raked individual portions of the pile to the compost and returned to repeat the process. 

At first, though it seemed like I was making little progress, I continued to return to the large pile and move it, piece by piece, to the destination of my choice. Sometimes I would try to rake too much at a time until I realized it was easier and more productive to be satisfied with my resolve so I would step back, take a manageable portion, and persist. Each time, though I saw little progress, I did see progress and that was enough motivation to continue. I thought of many things as I worked: the tons of leaves raked by my father down on the Castle Valley farm, and I wondered what a ton of dried, brittle leaves would look like. When I felt like quitting, I thought how fortunate I am to have a yard of leaves that I can rake and call my own and a home and family and abundance. My mind grasp the thought that these principles extend much further than my own yard or home. They apply to all of life.

Have you ever wondered while attending school "Is this really worth it? I have so much more to do and so little to show for my efforts." Thousands of hours and still you're a long ways from graduation. Or perhaps you're missing a loved one or facing a challenging obstacle in life and your stamina confronting problems is wearing thin. Remember, progress may be slow and incomplete, but it is progress just the same and worth celebrating. So many never get the opportunity to attend high-quality schools like you do or enjoy loving family ties that are even worth missing. When the going gets rough, take a step back, regroup and move forward again and again and again, because the prize is not to the quickest, or the strongest, or the most graceful. The prize is for he that diligently endures to the end. Mosiah 4;7

I love King Benjamin's words, which are the words of Christ, beckoning us home and warning us of life's pitfalls.

We have so much to live for when we keep our eye on the prize.

Celebrate it.

The blessing of social media

I'm not deluded into thinking the subject of this blog doesn't present challenges and perhaps a paradox, as well.

But the improper use of the medium (eg wasting time, inappropriate content, et al) doesn't rightfully discount the tremendous possibility of value in the tool.

I had an interesting experience the other day I want to share with you. I received an email from UVU, and I opened it up just so the message would be marked as read and leave my inbox. I never intended to read it--I didn't think I had time. But upon viewing the message a concise 16-word greeting invited me to watch a brief 3-minute video. I decided I had time for that. Then fifteen minutes later after I shared its content with those that could benefit, I realized that the ease of social media got me to do exactly what was intended and everybody involved was enlightened. I love win-win situations!

The voice of the common man now stands or falls on its value to others. The mighty dollar is no longer necessary to promote your cause and your message, and this provides more access to see the good in the world.

A couple examples of how social media is changing the planet we live on: Think of the good that can come to purveyors and viewers of quality content. Literally, a universe of opportunity is available at our fingertips and our influence extends far beyond the confines of our home, office, or neighborhood. When I was employed by WordPerfect, I worked closely with Janina Sajka, the director of the American Foundation for the Blind. We setup a national beta testing group for people all over the country who were working in the labor force, teaching product benefits, and using our software to enlighten users and improve the world around them--oh, and did I mention, they were all blind, including Ms. Sajka. But with technology, screen readers, and the media miracle, they too could experience the world from the comfort of their offices.

Someday, it will seem ancient to have had to pay hundreds or thousands of dollars to get your voice out in your city or region to market you wares. Even now, a few articulate words and well-versed phrases or a video can spread your passions across the entire world; viral marketing can't be forced, but when it happens, nothing can stop it, and participants are lucky to ride the wave of acceptance.

Be wise and use this blessing for the good that it was intended.

Emi Yo Leke

Perhaps, I have found my new favorite song. It's difficult to pick just one.

How can you choose a favorite star in the heavens or single blossom from the garden?

Life hands us many challenges, but I have made up my mind that I will rise when faced with whatever obstacles confront me.

And in the midst of the trials that we face, I look with hope for the day when all our sorrows will be swallowed up in the great plan of happiness. Until then, the Savior, Jesus Christ is the anchor for my soul, and hope for that day is enough.

I suspect you, too, will feel this emotion every time you listen to the song below.

Enjoy!

Onward

A few weeks ago, I shared with you a story that my dad used to tell about a sailor who prayed every day, despite the ridicule he would receive from his shipmates. As a boy, he learned to kneel by his bed night and morning. So naturally when he joined the armed services, he continued this habit. In the heat of battle, he had already sought the guidance of his Father in Heaven, so he could continue on with confidence doing what was within his power to affect.

I love that story and remember it often when I am facing difficulty. Last week my top two job possibilities dropped off my list in the same day. Details aren't important, but the event could have been devastating.

Later I thought this is exactly the way Mitt Romney must have felt after the elections despite all that campaigning. Or perhaps our pioneer ancestors, who had to continue from city to city after rejection on their trek to a new home. I'm sure you can think of more examples.

Though in many ways my experience pales in comparison to these examples and perhaps the challenges you face, this obstacle is significant to me, just as your trials are significant to you.

I remember with fondness singing the primary song Called to Serve with my brothers and Grandpa Curtis at my mission farewell. It had an important message then, and it is still important today. Though our field of labor has changed, our goal to further the Lord's work and derive strength from our Source of power remains the same.

Especially amid hardship.

God our strength will be; Press forward ever, called to serve our King.

Our Great Day

When I was a child, I relied on the faith and support of my parents to guide and strengthen me amid challenges. Later, as I was confronted with obstacles of an impending nature, I realized my parents had equipped me with solutions to challenges and security in the teachings of the gospel of Jesus Christ. And now when I look back, I can clearly see the wisdom of choosing to follow their counsel and the prophetic words of our leaders. 

Today, we are confronted with obstacles unlike those we have heretofore had to face. But that, too, is fulfillment of prophecy. Can you begin to comprehend your important role in God's plan? Many look to you for strength, courage, and respite amid the difficulty of our day. For you are the generation that must be prepared to meet your God. He has arranged for you places of safety to usher in his Second Coming.

You are not alone. The Lord is mindful of your needs. As you rely on him and heed the words of his prophets, you will feel the tentacles of Divine Providence reaching out to you in your time of need. The Good Shepherd knows his sheep.

Of this you may feel assured. 

Mom and I went looking for a favorite picture by Simon Dewey recently. I have posted it on my blog. She also shared with me a wonderful video presentation of the crucial time in which we live and your important role in it. 

Enjoy!

Living Water

...whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life. ~ John 4:14

It was at Jacob’s well, in the presence of a Samaritan woman, that Jesus chose to declare his Messiahship in one of the most tender and profound teaching moments in the New Testament. He could have delivered his message to a large multitude of learned and favored individuals. Yet he took time to meet quietly with this woman, who was in much need of the sweet forgiveness and hope that only one like unto God could have offered her. We do not know the duration of their discussion, but we can imagine that as light and comfort filled the woman’s heart, there was a well of water springing up within her unto everlasting life.
~ Simon Dewey

Video

A bit o'advice

So if I were to give you a bit of advice, what do you think it would be? 

Some of the most helpful advice I have been given came from my grandmother. I have used it throughout my life. She said, "If life hands you a lemon, make lemonade.” She was such a positive thinker and believed everything could be turned to our advantage. Grandpa used that bit of advice often, and it helped a lot.

The Lord promised us he would help us, too. The apostle Paul wrote to the Romans "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God..." Romans 8:28 

Even hard things that initially look bad and destructive can be changed to our good.

So what's my bit of advice? Love God. Serve him. Let him change your life. 

He can make all things turn for your good.

You can know this for yourself.

That's it.

Blessed with Daughters

It's a funny story to think back on how we came about having five daughters. I never imagined it in my wildest dreams. Perhaps more accurately, I never contemplated the possibility. So when it happened as it did, it was such a surprise! But when I think back now on what a blessing it has been to have five wonderful daughters, I feel very fortunate.

The Young Women's theme appropriately describes you, your eternal value, and limitless potential:

“We are daughters of our Heavenly Father, who loves us, and we love him. We will ‘stand as witnesses of God at all times and in all things, and in all places …’ as we strive to live the Young Women Values, which are Faith, Divine Nature, Individual Worth, Knowledge, Choice and Accountability, Good Works, and Integrity. We believe as we come to accept and act upon these values, we will be prepared to make and keep sacred covenants, receive the ordinances of the temple, and enjoy the blessings of exaltation.”

I see each one of you far surpassing my fondest dreams. Your mother and I admire and love you. We are privileged to be associated with you.

There is no question in my mind that you were among the "noble and great ones" in the premortal world foreordained to fill important roles in this our day. Abraham 3:22-23

I'm the luckiest man alive.

The Lord is in the Details

I feel so grateful for the multitude of blessings that we all share. We are called to go through challenges, and of course these obstacles provide an opportunity for us to glean strength and demonstrate our commitment. But perhaps one of the reasons we are faced with obstacles is so we can witness the handiwork of God as he exhibits his might. I recently attended a 30-year reunion of the WordPerfect family. There, Kurt Bestor performed a renown and loved song for us, which I had heard decades earlier when I was working at WordPerfect.

There are dozens of renditions of this moving song--THE PRAYER OF THE CHILDREN, which he produced back in those days. Bestor served his mission in Serbia during the 1970s. He lived with many different races and religions of people in this war torn country: Serbians, Muslims, and Croatians. At one point, he was working in a hospital caring for the children who had been devastated by this war that was not of their choosing. While he retrieved supplies from a neighboring town, this hospital was bombed. Bestor came back to find it destroyed and all the innocent children he had come to care for dead. When he returned to the US, he was inspired to write a song in tribute to the children, the innocent, who were the ones suffering the most from this war. Near the end of the song, for a brief moment--in memory of these children--the words change from English to Serbian. 

President Monson's conference talk addressed the subject of recognizing the Lord's hand in our day and taking time to consider the blessings of our lives. 

Yes. Especially amid hardship, gratefully, the Lord is in the details.

The Prayer of the Children 

Sage of Lamberne

Breaking Stride

I am sitting in my office. There is quite a commotion going on around the house. A dish just fell in the kitchen...this time, it can't be fixed--it shattered into a million pieces. Of course, this isn't the first time. A beautiful hand-made bowl fell victim a few months ago. I remember as a child, a family heirloom that had been entrusted to my mother was damaged, much to Granny's dismay. I couldn't begin to number the broken glasses and bowls or plates or watches or vases or windows...or much more significant losses. But there is One who can and does.

To us these things are lost never to be reclaimed. But that is not necessarily the case in the great plan of happiness. All broken things can be healed because of the Atonement of Jesus Christ, relieving the blind, lame, deaf, and downtrodden. No infirmity, situation, or hardship is outside the healing power of the Savior Jesus Christ. Healing through Jesus Christ includes physical, spiritual, and emotional conditions.

Elder David Bednar recognizes that this truth may be misunderstood even among latter-day saints:

I suspect that many Church members are much more familiar with the nature of the redeeming and cleansing power of the Atonement than they are with the strengthening and enabling power. It is one thing to know that Jesus Christ came to earth to die for us—that is fundamental and foundational to the doctrine of Christ. But we also need to appreciate that the Lord desires, through His Atonement and by the power of the Holy Ghost, to live in us—not only to direct us but also to empower us.

So how does this work? How can the Atonement of Jesus Christ enable us to overcome our challenges today?

Elder Bednar continues by giving a scriptural example and shares how he has learned to use this tool in his life.

Nephi is an example of one who knew, understood, and relied upon the enabling power of the Savior. Recall that the sons of Lehi had returned to Jerusalem to enlist Ishmael and his household in their cause. Laman and others in the party traveling with Nephi from Jerusalem back to the wilderness rebelled, and Nephi exhorted his brethren to have faith in the Lord. It was at this point in their journey that Nephi’s brothers bound him with cords and planned his destruction. Please note Nephi’s prayer: “O Lord, according to my faith which is in thee, wilt thou deliver me from the hands of my brethren; yea, even give me strength that I may burst these bands with which I am bound” (1 Nephi 7:17; emphasis added).
Do you know what I likely would have prayed for if I had been tied up by my brothers? “Please get me out of this mess NOW!” It is especially interesting to me that Nephi did not pray to have his circumstances changed. Rather, he prayed for the strength to change his circumstances. And I believe he prayed in this manner precisely because he knew, understood, and had experienced the enabling power of the Atonement.

But you may ask, how is this done? Elder Bednar uses another example from the Book of Mormon for our benefit. Alma is directing a mission to reclaim the apostate Zoramites. Alma did not pray to have his afflictions removed, rather he prayed for strength to bear his infirmities.

And the Lord provided for them that they should hunger not, neither should they thirst; yea, and he also gave them strength, that they should suffer no manner of afflictions, save it were swallowed up in the joy of Christ. Now this was according to the prayer of Alma; and this because he prayed in faith. (Alma 31:38)

We can, too.

Pray for strength to suffer your challenges with faith.

The Savior has suffered not just for our iniquities but also for the inequality, the unfairness, the pain, the anguish, and the emotional distresses that so frequently beset us. There is no physical pain, no anguish of soul, no suffering of spirit, no infirmity or weakness that you or I ever experience during our mortal journey that the Savior did not experience first. You and I in a moment of weakness may cry out, “No one understands. No one knows.” No human being, perhaps, knows. But the Son of God perfectly knows and understands, for He felt and bore our burdens before we ever did. And because He paid the ultimate price and bore that burden, He has perfect empathy and can extend to us His arm of mercy in so many phases of our life. He can reach out, touch, succor—literally run to us—and strengthen us to be more than we could ever be and help us to do that which we could never do through relying upon only our own power.

“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
“Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
“For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light” (Matthew 11:28–30).

With Elder Bednar, I declare my witness and appreciation for the infinite and eternal sacrifice of the Lord Jesus Christ. He lives. I have experienced both His redeeming and His enabling power. I testify that these powers are real and available to each one of us.

As you employ this principle in your life, you will find a renewed strength and optimism to overcome life's hardship.

Listen or read the whole talk here. There are many applications made that teach us about the enabling power of the Atonement of Jesus Christ. It's well worth your time. Please take time to read or listen to it.

General Conference

I love watching and listening to General Conference. Enjoy!



Mosiah 2:6
And they pitched their tents round about the temple, every man having his tent with the door thereof towards the temple, that thereby they might remain in their tents and hear the words which King Benjamin should speak unto them...

Saving the Ship

Grandpa used to tell me a story about a sailor in the navy who was ridiculed because he knelt by his bunk each day and offered prayer. Nevertheless, this young man was undeterred.

Later in one particularly heated battle, the ship was struck mortally, and the men on deck fell to their knees in droves pleading for heaven's help, hopeless as it looked, because of fear. This particular cadet, however, did not cry for help but continued trying to save the ship. After the incident, when the battalion had returned to normalcy, his comrades gathered around him and asked of all people why didn't he begin to pray on the deck of the ship at the time when they needed heaven's help so badly, like many of the other sailors did.

He replied "I had already said my prayers that morning. God knew of my needs. Then was time for me to do everything I could given the situation at hand."  

I have always appreciated that sentiment and felt strength and security knowing that if I stand for Him, He will stand by me, especially in the heat of battle. I like this story because it applies to all our lives in every situation we may find ourselves. It's a matter of priority.

And that makes all the difference!

Romans 1:16